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in touch with feelings: The importance of father and mother

This post is the extended version of the published in John Post Ethics post, the quotes from the book J. Bauer are here not to cut the initial thoughts in advance.

The basis for the emotional richness and diversity of emotions is in man a very early age and decide what to him later as emotional intelligence and as an emotional life budget available. Whether this budget can be retrofitted to which I would later OBSERVATIONS.

on what 'the Joachim Bauer points out, applies not only to early childhood level actions, but also for what we may call the character of feelings and explained why people from so many in love, in anger, under understand compassion, under heat, in gentleness, in joy and many others;
it also explains why we do not understand in the end some people: They do not speak our emotional language.

Here is another quote from J. Bauer's book I'm all for the understanding of themselves and create an awareness of what is important in the education of children, my heart wants - one of the most important and best books I've read, it shows that even a scientist alive and easy to write understandable:

Joachim Bauer: Why I feel what you feel [excerpt from Chapter 3]

As the child is reflected in the world and the problem of autism to

have mirror cells, which is effectively reflected, the most important things in the luggage for the journey through life. Without mirror neurons, no contact, no spontaneity, no emotional understanding. The genetic basic equipment provides the infant has a starter set of mirror neurons available that give it the ability to take a few days after birth, with its most important people first mirror actions. It is crucial however, whether his chance is given to implement such actions, because a basic rule of our brain is. "Use it or lose it" nerve-cell systems that are not used are lost. Mirror actions do not develop by themselves, they need always a partner.

"Use it or lose it": The mirror neurons of the baby must be recorded start

fact that we are born with an innate, genetically linked basic configuration of mirror neurons in the life shows itself in a phenomenon that would not be possible without them: When properly selected infants begin distance few hours to days after birth, certain facial expressions, they look to imitate spontaneously. Opens to meet them face-looking mouth, they do the same. Responds to a face with pursed lips the baby by himself curls his lips, and it sticks out his tongue when he is fooling it. With its amazing ability to imitate the infant has already from the first days of life the opportunity to engage a two-way game, which leads to the fact that only develop interpersonal bonds. The neurobiological term willingness to spontaneous imitation document is the framework around which develops the relationship between infant and caregiver. Between the newborn and the primary caregiver - sometimes because the mother can not even be available and instead of father or other the main role play in the supply, I am using the term "primary caretaker." Your best "occupation" is undoubtedly the mother - begins something whose magic is to be compared only with the situation of fresh love. And actually happened from a neurobiological point of view in both cases something very similar: a mutual receiving and reflecting returning signals, a sensing and feeling of what the other straight, moving in the true sense of the word, accompanied by the experimenter, even sending out signals and , look how far they reflected back from the opposite, that is to be returned. This game is not only at the beginning of a love relationship, It is, in less intense form, the starting point of any interpersonal relationship.

In order to start the whole wonderful game at all levels, needed by the infant caregivers, but not any "comparison, not just any training wall, but real" players, which reflect themselves. Most children have appropriate teammates: respect people with a normally-developed ability to love, sensitivity and warmth to respond to the infant. The best players are the parents, since they are doped because of the birth experience of nature with a substance that their binding ability increased: oxytocin. Where parents are not available, loving caregivers can provide good substitute. However, they have a longer time or permanently available so that it can build up between them and the child is a bond.

The genetic basic equipment is anything but a guarantee that the biological systems of the later people actually work in such a way as is possible in principle. Congenital mirror systems of the infant can develop and evolve only if it is for him a suitable and appropriate therapeutic relationship. Popular mistakes our time is the widespread opinion, the essential key to the success of our development is only to be found in the genes. In fact, relationship experiences and lifestyles that are associated always with an activation of specific neurobiological systems, a huge influence on both the regulation of gene activity as well as micro-structures of our brain. Nowhere is as clear as in the mirror systems, the importance of interpersonal relationships for the biology of our bodies have.

The fact that the genetic makeup alone is no guarantee for the development of a capability evident in the case of mirror neurons as an example of the blind. From birth, blind people can mimic the early absence of visual input mirror game does not practice, though, recognize them as their other reactions that work their mirror systems in principle. Due to the lack of practice in the areas affected by the fate of human development remains a specular facial expressions. Characteristics and skills can only develop if the genes provided by the biological systems are addressed through interpersonal relationships and social interactions and activated in an appropriate manner.

Imitation Arts the infant are not limited to, from the first days of life features to mirror. A little later, to see how he makes his first institutions to emulate and vocal expressions of their own vocalizations. He also shows soon - if entirely undirected - motor resonance reactions when he is pretending to expressive body movements. As already mentioned, caregivers serve involuntarily the readiness of the infant to imitate, if they feed the infant with which they have eye contact, open most of even the mouth, because they sure put intuitively that it will also open his mouth.

The counterpart to the imitation of the infant exercises is that the mother and significant others in turn have an intuitive tendency to imitate the baby and give him zurückzuspiegeln the signals emitted by Himself. They do not reflect his conduct one to one, but in an expanded, with additional elements enriched form, a process known as marking. This gives the baby long before he has something of consciousness, signs that show him that he was recognized, and it in turn to stimulate further response actions. Starting from its initial still very limited opportunities imitation the result is a growing range of communication. That infants already at birth have amazing skills, has been known for several years and is found in readable publications, among others, Daniel Stern and Martin mandrel, as shown, but not until the discovery of mirror neurons can these skills be fully understood.

The basis of emotional intelligence: understood the intuitive feeling of being-

On the basis of what mirror neurons provide, the infant has a chance to connect emotionally with his environment in contact to exchange signals and to develop an initial primal feeling of self-understanding. Early reflections are not only possible, they correspond to the newborn an emotional and neurobiological basic need. This is evident not only in the happy-ecstatic reactions - and also in prominent signals in the brain electrocardiogram (EEG) - which can give rise to the infant through affectionate imitations. Successful and the resulting reflections on this basic sense of involvement also lead to an output of endogenous opioids. This not only explains why interpersonal affection - as was shown in studies - pain bearable, but also why we are calibrated to neurobiological bond.

Early reflections cause not only mental but also physical happiness. Conversely, calls a deliberately refused mirroring forth massive pain reactions. This experiment makes clear, known in the literature as "still face procedure." The caregiver takes her face in the right distance from the face of the child. If the adult now, contrary to his own emotional intuition, his face motionless on purpose maintains, and turns the child from impulsive. If the procedure is repeated several times, this has an emotional return to the result, the readiness of the infant decreases, look for further ways to mimic signal exchange.

From observations of this kind can and must be concluded that testing, newborns and infants emotionless to care for purely "rational" or "reasonable" criteria, have devastating consequences. They ruin the child's ability to come up with other people in emotional contact and to feel connected with them intuitively. The early game with reflective imitation provides the foundation of what Daniel Goleman has described as emotional intelligence.

Although the newborn in the first few weeks have not experienced as a separate person, reflecting the early exchange of characters created in him a first basic intuitive sense of social connectedness. Since there at this time between himself and distinguish other still can not have babies researchers that early communicative exchange as "Intersubjectivity without subjects" means, that is, as interpersonal relationship Done without - in relation to the child - already an acting subject could be spoken. Despite this, developing the basic feeling of being in an intuitive connection with other similar beings to live with them in a common emotional world. This emerging through mutual mirroring operations feeling of Vittorio Gallese as "S-Identity" (for: social identity) called, represents a human primal urge: Infant researchers found that infants with only two months actively seeking emotional adjustment or compatibility with the mother are ready. As is clear from tricky experiments, the child develops in the third month of life a sense that with can own expressions of life for their caregivers trigger behavioral changes. Around this time around, the infant also begins his own attention to the line of sight so that they address to the attention of adults. This first sign of a "joint attention", of a reflecting transient is a common target of attention, is another example of how much the infant is designed to coordinate with its caregivers intuitively. First approaches of emotional intelligence are now visible.

The importance of children's play in the development of mirror systems

Start with about six months infants the process and the goal of movement sequences save. This is shown, for example, that the child at this age the first time expect the appearance of a ball that was rolled up behind one side of a canopy, on the other side. This is an important precondition that it can save some time later action sequences, including their final state. To the ninth month around the child is able to represent objects or persons in charge in the knowledge that they exist even further if they are not visible. These so-called object constancy is evident not only in the relationship the child's caregiver, but also because it goes to, for example, a ball that was wrapped in a towel, unpack again, because - unlike previously white-now that the ball is not even visible, still present . At this important stage of development, namely an inner idea of persistence invisible objects to have, based on the ability to develop ideas about non-visible sections of an action sequence. With about twelve to fourteen months, the child is in a position to the objectives and purposes of the acts which it was observed to predict and understand that regard. Gradually expanded so that the possibilities the mirror system.

The child creates his picture of the world as a collection of action. Interactions, actions and feelings are not only the stuff of which the outer world is constructed, but also the basis for conceptions of self. The realization that there is a distinction between self and other are formed between the twelfth and eighteenth month of life. About this time comes around to the existing intuitive sense of social identity ("S-Identity": I belong to the world of others) is now the perception of their own identity as an individual added ("I-Identity": I'm different than the other). Not only to paint a picture of the world but also in order to define itself, it must be the child's brain, so can relate to stored programs experienced action and interaction sequences describe.

to memories that act, and feel it is not by itself. As with the early exchange of reflecting imitations shortly after birth, the child is later rely on having fixed reference persons with whom it can make consistent relationship experiences. But that is where the mutual contact now, just before the end of the second year, a little further added. The child needs now also a training ground, where it can test actions and feelings in different roles, ie, from different perspectives. This training ground for future real world the child is game. Its outstanding importance stems from the fact that the child here, and only here, a tremendous range of action and interaction sequences can learn to know and practice.

playing ability is linked to neurobiological conditions: At the age of about eighteen months, the child is so far as to observe the actions specifically and by conscious, self-directed Imitation may practice . The mirror systems have been developed and are ready to get models of everything to see. But this is not enough. The toddler can not open up the world of the game itself. It must first be a period of time from caregivers introduced into it. Caregivers who teach the child to play, are replaced from a neurobiological point of view, nothing, because the mirror systems - as shown by experiments - reflecting in action sequences only if they are living on models, of biological actors . Babies need so-present, living administrator. People or characters that only the screen can be seen to have the serious and significant disadvantage that they can make the child no individual interactions. Only when workers are present in person, individually respond to the actions of the child and bring the games are back on track, can young children after they have reached an appropriate age to go over from time to time to organize the game.